I have been thinking a lot this week about why publishing Monday’s About the Author post made me all clenched up and dissociative, and why I had a moment of flush-and-panic when a couple of people that I know in real life mentioned it.
To which a little voice inside my head said,
Oh my gosh this is so embaaaarrasssssing. Caught in the act of thinking I’m something.
Here’s the thing, I’m really freaking proud of myself, but it is fascinating what triggers our most tender parts. Fascinating how you can want to be acknowledged for something that you’re proud of, but you don’t want to be reminded of it. Or told out loud that we are appreciated.
Or how those moments, the ones where you go outside of your comfort zone and talk about what you’ve done, are prime targets for the smallest, lingering shadow of an I don’t deserve your attention voice.
The world will not celebrate you if you don’t.
Flat out, you will not get the things you are desiring if you can’t dig deep and believe that you deserve them. You will not be able to move forward, achieve great things, attract clients, find the partner of your dreams, or make more money if permit yourself to get caught up in a conversation with the voice that tells you that you don’t deserve all of the good things coming your way.
You deserve the absolute best life that you can imagine for yourself.
You deserve to have more clients, and not just clients but clients perfectly suited for your business style, than you are able to serve at any given time.
By the same reasoning, you deserve to have a waiting list, you fabulous thing you.
You deserve to have a partner that listens to the words that are coming out of your mouth, and treat you as though you are every bit as special and gorgeous as you are.
You deserve to have a comfortable, kind, and compassionate relationship with your body and with food.
You deserve to charge what you’re worth, and have people pay you, without expecting you to put all of your love and energy into helping them for free.
You deserve to drive a car that gets you where you’re going and live in a home that is cozy.
I can almost hear a naysayer in the distance who begs to differ, who says:
Who are YOU to think that you deserve that kind of wonderful life? Why should you have access to things that other people don’t? What makes you think that you are so special?
That naysayer is alive and well in the back of my mind, and keeps me in check when I start to dream too big or think too much is possible.
Today I’m going to ask you to, lovingly, thank that voice for all that it has done for you over the years, keeping you safe and creating careful stability for you out of the chaos of growing up.
I’m going to ask you to thank that voice, and then, tell it, firmly, that it’s services are not longer necessary.
Kick it to the curb.
Make the decision, right this second, that you are no longer going to be chained up and controlled by the perceived or real expectations of others, your set of deeply ingrained Shoulds, or the part of yourself that constantly needs to question whether or not you deserve all of the simply amazing things that are coming your way.
You deserve it. Period.
You are worth taking a chance.
Ready to start celebrating how amazing you are, but you have no idea where to begin? I’d love to help you plan that party. Work with me to put your Shoulds on notice, and begin stepping into the life of your dreams.