At 11am on Friday, September 21st in Baltimore, Maryland at the Fitbloggin conference, I am going to be teaming up with Shauna and Karen to facilitate a conversation about the middle ground between self-acceptance and weight loss.
Self-love and the desire to change.
Digging yourself utterly + completely and wishing for a little more out of your life.
Too often we operate under the misconception that self-acceptance is a place that we will reach, an end-point that will have us relaxing in the shade of our new and improve attitudes about our self worth.
This means one of two things:
That once we have achieve this mythical place of self-acceptance – we no longer need to work for it, that we have conquered the mythical quest, have slain the dragons, and get to live the rest of our days enjoying our kingdoms and counting our many blessings.
The mere fact of wanting to grow and change is inherently the antithesis of self-acceptance, and that all respectable self-loving ladies (and gentlemen) are sublimely please with what they’ve got, 24/7.
Now I’ve slain some dragons. I’ve enjoyed a day or two frolicking about my kingdom.
But I have never, ever stopped wanting more for myself.
My self-love is firmly rooted in the process of getting closer to the source, my essential self.Â It is the peeling away of layers, over the course of my life, and in the process seeking more: truth, vulnerability, comfort with intimacy, respect for my body, settling into relationships, and widening my dreamscape.
My self-love is the slow and steady process of becoming who I already am.
This is a very confusing topic for very many people, one of the many reasons that we chose it for our session at Fitbloggin.
Too often we get caught up in the black-and-white of either or.
We forget that we, ourselves, live in the grey matter.
We forget that it is perfectly acceptable to meet ourselves where we are - working and figuring it out as we go along.
We forget to appreciate that we are in the constant state of getting to know ourselves.
My self-love is the daily refinement of who I am becoming and what I need to support my best self.
It is about taking my heart and growing needs into consideration. It is about tailoring my daily routine to best fit MY life and reserving the right to change my mind.
It is about making my life decisions based on what feels good to me, at a gut level, and opening myself up to the possibility that trusting myself will get me where I want to go.
It is about choosing to make myself a priority in my own life, every day.
Now, because this session is all about community involvement and discussion (and truly, not at all about my definitions of self-acceptance), I am here today to humbly ask for your assistance in cultivating the program for our session.
I want to know:
What questions do YOU have about self-acceptance?
What has always irked you about conversations about self-love?
What feels too good to be true, and what do you need clarified?
How might you need to be better supported in order to be your best, most loving self?
What do you really wish people said out loud on the topic of self-acceptance?
In short, what do you need from us to help you get on your way?
I absolutely want to hear from each and every one of you – whether or not you will be attending the conference. Please feel free to get in touch with me in whatever way feels the most comfortable to you.
- Leave me a comment below.
- Scramble on over to Facebook and chat me up on my wall.
- Scoot on over to Twitter and @reply me, using the hashtag #fitbloggin.
- Send me an email if you’d like your comments to remain low-key and secret-like.
Please and thank you.