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What you really mean when you say I’m not motivated.
This week the amazing Hillary Rain and magical Beth Morey got together for this interview. Oh yes.
This post by Nona Jordan about your relationship with money – and committing to solving a better problem – is brilliant.
Have you always wanted to learn how to read tarot? I love Theresa Reed’s work, and she’s whipped up a free e-course, Rookie to Reader.
I am a “too much” woman.
My sweet friend Sas Petherick teamed up with the phenomenal Evan Leah Quinn of Sixteen July to revamp her online home. It is gorgeous.
Making peace with my body… in a bikini.
Skip on over to check out this week’s Notes To My Younger Self posts.
Rewriting our narratives of brokenness with Esmé Wang.
This week I’m seeking pleasure by… watching oodles of Brothers & Sisters, packing up all of the boxes in my own timing, soaking up time with my sisters, and making groat risotto.
As women, we often carry a desire for wholeness – for feeling vibrant in our bodies, for creativity that pours from our finger tips, and for relationships where we feel encouraged to show up exactly as we are.
For giving ourselves permission to grow roots where we are now – choosing to become an active participants in our own lives, curating moments of joy in the spaces in between a packed schedule and a PTA bake sale.
For celebrating the sacredness in our skin and putting down our cell phones to reconnect with the natural world around us.
For giving a voice to our wild and intuitive selves, the part of our spirits that are begging to heard.
Being at home in your life isn’t about doing anything.
It is about becoming more comfortable with yourself and your own unique way of doing things.
It is about eschewing the model of operating where productivity is king and your personal sanity doesn’t even make an appearance.
It is about honoring your body and our deeply creative and wise feminine nature.
When I say feminine here, I do not mean the sexed up version of the feminine woman that we so often see in pop culture. Or the good mother. Or the caretaker. Or the goddess. Or the virgin. Or the wife. Or the crone. (Though it could mean pieces of all of those archetypes for you.)
I am talking about a wildness in your approach, a deep receptivity to your own guidance, and the tender stewardship of your life.
I am also talking about moving through your life in tune with the seasons, moon cycle, and your body’s own cycles and rhythms.
This is a journey for women who are ready to reimagine the way they live their lives, peeling back the layers of “being good” and “getting ahead.”
It is a journey for women who desire to be both soft and durable. Compassionate and deeply productive. Kind and powerful.
It is a journey for women who hold the desire for a brilliant community of other women to gather with in support and nourishment.
Over the last three months as I’ve been creating it, In Full Bloom has been my heart outside of my body – the beacon calling me forward as I’ve formed a deeper and more delicious relationship with myself. I created this group excursion because I needed it. Because I saw my clients and communities needing it.
Gather with me…
In Full Bloom is an 8-week excursion for wild women with the desire to cultivate sacred rituals that honor the divine feminine within. Beyond simply making peace with your body, this course teaches you how to become the tender steward of your life – approaching yourself with radiant love and devotion.
Think :: ardent self-care, special guests, glittering prompts + invitations, and recalibrating your life while honoring your body and connecting with the cycle of the seasons + the moon.
Learn more and scoop up your spot by clicking this link.
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Be a difficult client. Brilliant permission from Evan Leah Quinn, web design and online identity design extraordinaire.
Utterly fantastic :: Terrifically real, sometimes vulnerable, protective, and wildly blessed. What happens when you become a bit visible.
How to be a grown ass woman: friendships.
I adored Kyla Roma’s note to her younger self this week.
I’m not fearless, nor do I want to be.
My lovely and brilliant friends Anna Guest-Jelley and Margarita Tartakovsky wrote an ebook about poetry and body image! And it’s so gorgeous! Check it out here.
The ultimate crazy sexy mascara smackdown – your one stop resource for all natural mascara. Though, I would definitely add this one to mix if I had my druthers.
This week I’m seeking pleasure by: I would be lying if I told you I was thinking about much more than In Full Bloom right now -which launches tomorrow. SQUEAL. But, I’ve also been making tortilla soup, giggling late night with friends, watching Vikings, smooching my sweetheart and meaning it, and reading approximately one zillion books about wild women.
Dear 22-year old Mara,
I can see that you’re struggling with all the the unknowns that lie before you. I can feel the palpable nervousness throbbing through the years of memory between us. I know that you believe that it is always going to be complicated and that you’ll never be able to feel deliciously at home in your life – though you yearn for it daily.
Take a seat, I have a few thoughts that I would like to share with you.
You do not need to react to everything immediately. You do not need to fulfill every whim or honor every distraction.
I remember the feeling in my skin, the quick jump to response. The anxious yelp of wanting to make sure that everything was just so. The belief that it was possible to to control every outcome, to prevent every ounce of pain.
Give yourself the permission to take a deep breath and then another. Permit yourself the pardon of actively choosing how you want to proceed.
Relax your white knuckles.
Every single upset or potential decision is not an emergency. It may feel like an emergency. It may feel like your nerves are spiking and your heart is racing, but responding to every occasion out of a state of panic will do little more than lead you to live a life of nervousness that will never leave you.
When you feel like things are an emergency, ask yourself: in the whole scheme of things, is this really a big deal?
If the answer is no, please stop making it a big deal. You will be better for it.
Throw your rules out the window.
I know that you have that feeling that your entire life is written for you and that you are simply following the path laid out before you: college, grad school, job, a relationship that sticks, house, children. I know that you are telling yourself that is the life that you want, but I want you to take a second to re-evaluate your plans.
What would you do if no one told you what to do?
How do you want to feel in your life?
Then walk backwards. Perhaps you want to feel happy and you told yourself that “happiness” was a path that included many steps to follow. Perhaps you created a framework for yourself that was unmanageable, based on what you had seen or experienced in your youth.
Remember this: You feel moments of happiness everyday. The value of your life is not contingent on the many steps that you’ve set before you, checking them off dutifully like tasks on a to do list.
Instead, follow the desire for how you want to feel. Use it as a barometer, asking yourself: Does this decision make me feel more ______ or less _________? And, don’t be so precious about the particulars.
Everything – and anything – is possible.
You do not know where your wild life is going to take you. You do not know what you are meant for – yet. You will find it by joyfully experimenting with your life, through trying things out and examining how they feel. Remove your blinders lovely. Look up and out, look at the world around you.
Reframe failure as an opportunity to learn from yourself and to make better, more aligned decisions the next time around.
You do not have to do everything perfectly all the time. It is safe to make mistakes. It is safe to take risks.
Build your trust in yourself by answering the heed of your own call – and hold the hope that chasing what feels good is going to lead you somewhere beyond your wildest expectations.
It is ok to celebrate loudly. It is ok to celebrate small wins. It is ok to reward yourself for rolling out of bed and making it to the laundromat or remembering to pay your bills on time. Tell people about your celebrations and invite them to celebrate with you.
Allow your relationships to blossom naturally with the permission that is inherent in standing in your own light and allowing yourself to be seen. Allow the ripple effect to resonate out of your vulnerability and positively impact the people around you.
Celebrations do not have to be expensive or wild. They can be the quiet rituals and smiles at yourself in the mirror, but they are necessary. Carve out the space to celebrate your wins before moving on to the next thing – the next class, the next assignment, the next job.
And, above all else: take sweet care of yourself. You only get one body. One life. Don’t forget that it’s OK to plan in a little extra sleep, another glass of water, or a quiet moment of supreme self-care.
You’ve got this.
||Notes to My Younger Self is a blog series in honor of Sarah Von Bargen’s gorgeous creation The Post College Survival Kit – a gorgeous collection of wisdom that aims to teach you how to grow up without f$*&ing up.
We learned the hard way so you don’t have to! You don’t have to wait till your thirties for a better job, a cuter apartment, financial stability, better relationships + friendships.
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96 bodies you won’t see on billboards – but you should.
Loving :: Two years to no lies.
Anna’s response to the question, “how has your journey to body acceptance changed your relationships?” is oh so good.
The stories that we tell ourselves about failure and being in photos.
I love this woman so much – and her jewelry is really freaking gorgeous.
Mmmmm…. The Nature of Money.
A simple and potent reminder for when it doesn’t come easy.
Woosh, this letter to her younger self is powerful! I love this bog series so very much and can’t wait to participate in it next week.
This week, I also want to (highly) recommend this book: Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body. So freaking good.
This week I’m seeking pleasure by :: taking time to visit the beach, asking for the adventures that are soaring in my heart, sleeping late, taking space to be quiet, gathering magical supplies to ship out to the beauties that sign up for In Full Bloom next week, and watching every episode of Vikings that I can get my hands on.