Twitter Spam and Feelings of Unworthiness

October 20, 2011
So lately, as many of you on twitter probably already know - you get a direct mesage from one of your friends with a mesages like: This blog says something REALLY bad about you, you have to see it  [bogus link] Now, this maybe be insignificant in many of your lives, but the reaction that I have been noticing to these occurrences in my body and in my heart warrants a post The main tenet of this post being - What is it in us that so ... keep reading

Creating an Emotional Safety Plan

October 13, 2011
Last week, I mentioned creating an emotional safety plan, a just-in-case of severe emotional distres plan, which seemed to peak a little interest and I thought it warranted it's very own post I am the kind of girl that loves a plan It makes my skin tingle with stability and comfort just knowing what the heck I will do if things don't quite go my way Now, I feel the need to differentiate this from expecting bad things to happen, because above ... keep reading

The Post That Almost Was: What to Do When Nothing Goes Your Way

October 07, 2011
Alas Marzipanlings - such is the NATURE of a post about what to do when nothing goes your way, it gets foiled by unforeseen obstacles In short, I have the absolute saddest little eyes in the world right now They are suddenly so dry and itchy and painful, and despite trying to be a trooper, I am currently collapsed in a pile of delicious comfort foods and Pan Am episodes Forgive me, and please accept this abbreviated post On what to do when ... keep reading

Learning to Have Relentless Compassion

October 03, 2011
The way I see it, when you come acros someone that is so overwhelmingly offensive, shaming, or ridiculing (in both loud and quiet ways), you have two choices: Run away, scared, sad, and hurt Internalize all of those awful things that person said about you, burying them down deep and permitting those words to define how you understand yourself Get really, quite angry Yell or throw things Check out the source - and make the decision to dig ... keep reading

Learning to Take Up the Space You Deserve

September 26, 2011
Give me a place to stand and I will move the earth {Archimedes} When I was a kid, I curled in I hunched over, chin to chest, chest to knees I wore dark colors - you know, things that were flattering for a person of my size I held my legs close together I sat on my hands I struggled to keep myself as contained as posible, imagining myself invisible in a room I never owned my own power There was no strength behind my voice - statements were ... keep reading