The Fat = "Friend" Relegation

August 03, 2010
Or: Being Sexy When You Don't Fit The "Ideal" Beauty Standards Either title will do - because the idea is exactly the same Lets ask a couple of questions shall we Do you feel like men/women/yourdesiredsexpartner look at you like a friend instead of potential mate because of your size Do you feel like you are too fat to _______  [wear sexy lingerie, high heels, tight dreses, make-up, have sex recklesly and wildly, find healthy ... keep reading

Learning to Dwell in the Realm of Possibility

July 20, 2010
I'm a bit of a dweller As in - obseser, panic creator, incesant doubter, and all around anxiety ridden girl However I'm working really hard on changing my ways The fact of the matter is: when you expect bad things to happen - they do But when you expect and anticipate little miracles everywhere, magic and luck seem to follow you wherever you go And I sure do want to be one of the lucky ones The amazing thing about luck is that you can create ... keep reading

The Case for Masturbation

July 15, 2010
After the smashing and unexpected succes of this week's what if wednesday, What IF: I Start Making Sex a Priority I have decided that the topic certainly warrants some major elaboration For example I didn't even broach the topic of masturbation in the original post, and, well, ahem, masturbation is kind of crucial Now as women, we are overall conditioned not to talk about our sexual needs, and certainly not expected to be agents to our own ... keep reading

What IF: I Started Making Sex a Priority?

July 14, 2010
I am a busy girl I am busy moving and shaking and making insane ideas become real, maniacally tweeting between slinging pizzas, pouring wine, giving tours, and spilling chowder in my Danskos I'm so busy that I'm often working double and triple shifts, leaving my feet feeling like bloody stumps and my brain absolutely fried I say things like, can I get y'all something to drink to start you off in my sleep Got it Now, I'm so busy that more often ... keep reading

Learning to Eat Healthfully Without Restriction

July 10, 2010
So, when I polled my readers recently for topics that they would like covered here, a reader asked me to addres the topic of learning to eat healthfully, but without falling into restrictive dieting And wouldn't you know, this is one of my favorite topics these days Because this can be difficult I often feel as though I'm negotiating with myself like I'm a small child My inner malnourished bratbaby demands all kinds of food all day long - ice ... keep reading