Ask Marzipan: How Do I Keep From Passing My Negative Body Image to My Child?

February 19, 2010
Hi from New Zealand! Just found your blog today, really enjoying it! I've struggled with body image all my life, I'm now in my early 30s and have a baby daughter, and I'm realizing I need to be very careful not to inadvertantly pas my negative vibes on to her We naturally tell her she'd beautiful and lovable because we love her and totally believe it to be true, but I'm wondering if you have any thoughts on how mothers can actively help their ... keep reading

Ask Marzipan: The Teen Sex Issue

February 17, 2010
I have a big question: I am a 17 year old girl and I've never had sex In fact, I've only ever kised one boy who was a few years older than me I wanted to be in a relationship but he did not want to "commit" I gues I was just a pasing fancy for him, but he meant a really lot to me I've not been particularly interested in anyone else since I feel abnormal and way too innocent because of my lack of experience It seems like a lot of my peers ... keep reading

A Fat Decrease in Your Libido

February 09, 2010
Several of the links that I shared in this week's body loving blogosphere targeted reasons for females having decreased libidos, and while there are many different conjectures for why this may be, one in particular interests me: impaired body image  Other demons include stres, financial woes, fluctuating hormones, and health isues, however, I think that the negative effect that having a damaged or poor body image is a supreme reigning factor ... keep reading

Ask Marzipan: The Virginity Issue

February 06, 2010
Dear Marzipan, I’m about to become a 25 year old virgin who has never been in a real relationship  And I feel like the biggest failure  Sex isn’t something I take casually because I’m a very vulnerable person (aren’t we all at the core) Having never been in a relationship makes me feel unlovable/ugly/dumb/fill-in-the-blank-internal insult  How can I not feel like a freak when everyone around me is getting married and having babies ... keep reading

Self Prescribing Celibacy

February 03, 2010
When I was fourteen I became sexually active Then, my desire for sexual intimacy spawned out of my perpetual need for personal validation I was fat I was scared And the role models that I most aspired to be were those who were charismatic and provocative, with anyone and everyone falling at their feet I longed to be a good flirt, to tease without requisite follow through, for someone to love me publicly Unfortunately, these were the exact ... keep reading
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