Ask Marzipan (or Swine Flu Left Holes in My Relationship, Part II)

December 03, 2009
Dear Marzipan, I have a friend that has embarked on a cros-continent drive (California to Brazil) with her boyfriend  They are driving a van the whole way and all started well until about mid-way through Mexico  Now my friend is having homicidal thoughts toward her boyfriend from their close quarters and being around each other CONSTANTLY  From your personal experience of your time abroad with C, do you have any suggestions for her Oh boy, ... keep reading

Swine Flu Left Holes in My Relationship

November 20, 2009
Being in a relationship is the strangest thing It really is So, I was sick, really really sick, and C took the best ever care of me But the entire time I was PAINFULLY aware of how out of control of my body I was, and how I felt too awful to keep myself together in front of her And it turns out - for a control freak like me - this was more terrifying than I ever would have expected It ALSO turns out that this vulnerable display of emotion wasn't ... keep reading

Dear Maine

November 04, 2009
Dear Maine, you have broken my heart a little bit today, though I had built up thick walls to bar out this type of sadnes, owing to an over active imagination and inclination towards wishful thinking the funny thing about growing up on this hook is it's easy to forget that there are people for whom this everyday is not a reality, and I get lost in thinking that everything will be ok, because there are queer characters on tv, interacting with ... keep reading

Thoughts on "The Perils of Positive Thinking"

October 13, 2009
So, the other day, my mother sent me a link to this post from TIME entitled, "Barbara Ehrenreich on The Peril of Positive Thinking," which I read just now, and am finding myself almost speechles Lets start with the title The PERILS of Positive Thinking! What PERILS could posibly be asociated with positive thinking Hmm, subject may become elated beyond reason They may find themselves blisful and happy and secure Ok I am done being flippant ... keep reading
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