Ask Marzipan: Is It OK to Check My Girlfriend’s Email?

June 09, 2009
Dear Marzipan, Help! I can’t stop reading my girlfriend’s email and text mesages I trust and love her, but I’ve been hurt before and I’m just so scared it’s going to happen again I haven’t told her that I’ve been doing it and I feel really awful about it Am I committing relationship suicide Dear friend, Yes I’m sorry I don’t mean to be harsh, because BELIEVE ME I more than sympathize with your problem I may have been a bit of ... keep reading

Learning to Take Care of Yourself

May 28, 2009
Since Monday I have been thinking a lot about the last ask marzipan column in which I advised one reader to not forget about her own needs while in the midst of a romantic whirlwind, and I have decided that the topic of self care and preservation is one that deserves some more attention Example: Summer on Cape Cod moved into full swing this weekend with Memorial Day weekend, or rather, "baby-dyke" weekend if you are queer or even mildly ... keep reading

Ask Marzipan: How Do I Retain Individuality Within my Relationship?

May 27, 2009
Dear Medicinal Marzipan, Your response to last week's Ask Marizpan post was very helpful! Here's my isue: When I'm in a relationship I tend to throw all my energies into it and into my partner I get so enraptured in all the intense, romantic, and intimate feelings, but sometimes forget to love myself and lose who I am as an individual What are some tips to maintain myself as my own person while still showing my partner the kind of love that I ... keep reading

Learning to be the Most Amazing Person in the Room

May 22, 2009
Even when you feel anything but And I have been feeling anything but, let me tell you  Lately I've had a swollen face, strained vocal cords (though some might find this sexy - I found it burdensome), frizzy hair, and an awkward body that feels disconnected and overwhelming All I've wanted to wear were sweat pants four sizes too big and a yellow college sweatshirt that falls frumpily to my knees  I haven't felt even 1/10th sexy And yet, in an ... keep reading

Learning to Let it Be Easy

May 07, 2009
It has been that kind of day The kind where you wake up and your throat hurts and you had dreams you had the spins or 125 whales were beached under hills of sand and you are grumpy and why won't the coffee just make itself and you need a re-do, but there's no time Unfortunately I've been having days like this for the past four days, and everyone's patience (my own included) is wearing thin I've never been good with change I get transitional ... keep reading