Ask Marzipan: Testing the Boundaries of Monogamy

May 04, 2009
Dear Marzipan, My mother has always said that one needs to be proactive in preventing circumstances in which your monogamous loyalty to your partner can be disabled by formed feelings, developed desires for another  In terms of preexisting friendships (some with non-platonic histories thrown into the mix), what should I do  Do Iallow for this loyalty to be tested, knowing that a thing gone unchallenged is weaker than something that has Or ... keep reading

Learning to Love (and Hold Out For) Positive Attention

April 03, 2009
I have been behaving badly In the past two weeks I have caught myself indulging in said frowned upon behavior: whining, yelling, whining some more when the yelling doesn't pan out, pointing out flaws without any sense of compasion, being self-involved, speaking either meanly and/or shortly to those around me (and by around me, I mostly mean to C, since lets be honest, it's a small island) This is not to say I have ONLY been behaving badly I ... keep reading

Ask Marzipan: How Can I Be a Better Top When I Am the Physically Weaker One in the Relationship?

March 27, 2009
Alright So here is our first Ask Marzipan question: I like to physically dominate, but how do I do this when I’m in bed with a person who weighs more than twice what I do  I’m the weakest I’ve been since I was 12, and I'm intimidated by this person’s physique because I feel like I can’t fulfill the top role we both  of us want me to have without being ashamed of my weaknes Now, I've been ruminating on this question for ... keep reading

Building Upon Your Family of Origin

March 11, 2009
We adopted a chick  And though usually I have a NO pet policy because my heart is so quick to fall and latch on, we began naming her Olive, Violet, until finally settling on Rosie, though I usually called her Peep Rosie had been abandoned by her mother She had found C out on the patio, locking her sights on C’s feet and running full speed towards them chirping She was small, sort of pathetic, and swarming in mites, but we recognized her as ... keep reading

Learning to Apologize

March 01, 2009
I told you that I was sorry and I wanted to mean it I wanted to mean it in the real way, the I know what I did was fucked up and I won’t do it again way Won’t  Not in the way that I had always known it to mean, the way in which people are bound together by the promise of their love for one another, and I’m sorry means “I know it was horrible, but I also know that you understand me because I am a part of you, and because we love each ... keep reading