Building Upon Your Family of Origin

March 11, 2009
We adopted a chick  And though usually I have a NO pet policy because my heart is so quick to fall and latch on, we began naming her Olive, Violet, until finally settling on Rosie, though I usually called her Peep Rosie had been abandoned by her mother She had found C out on the patio, locking her sights on C’s feet and running full speed towards them chirping She was small, sort of pathetic, and swarming in mites, but we recognized her as ... keep reading

Learning to Apologize

March 01, 2009
I told you that I was sorry and I wanted to mean it I wanted to mean it in the real way, the I know what I did was fucked up and I won’t do it again way Won’t  Not in the way that I had always known it to mean, the way in which people are bound together by the promise of their love for one another, and I’m sorry means “I know it was horrible, but I also know that you understand me because I am a part of you, and because we love each ... keep reading

Vieques, Puerto Rico: What I Have Been Up To

February 26, 2009
As you can see, I have been very busy I have been doing these things: eating cheesecakeviequeneselime ramekin filled deliciousnes, combating roosters, knocking papayas off of the trees in my yard with a large stick, snorkeling for starfish, falling in love, plucking my eyebrows, watching DAMAGES, reading the secret life of bees, writing, drooling over bags of arugula that cost me astronomical amounts of money, finding the least toxic eggs on ... keep reading

Learning to Let You Love Me

December 05, 2008
It used to be that I couldn't accept a compliment without a grimace When people would point things out to me, I often responded with a grumble determined to undercut myself or deflect attention When I was fourteen, I would force my first girlfriend to tell me she loved me a million times a day  I never asked her to directly, but there was something in the pain I carried so deep, the fear and insecurity that weighed heavy on my back, crippling ... keep reading

Relationships + Emotional Baggage: Telling Little White Lies

October 03, 2008
Lately I've been wondering how it is that everyone in my life is so easily contained in themselves I've been wondering how my friends are so beautiful and so pulled together  And then we talk and there seems to be so much overwhelming disatisfaction And I wonder, if you were able to ask for what you wanted, what you really wanted, without hesitation or embarrasment or fear of repercusion, what would it be I have this image of myself as kind ... keep reading
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