Tend to your capacity & take up space
If I only had 10 seconds of your time, I would tell you…
You are human. You have needs.
You are allowed to have needs.
You are allowed to meet those needs.
You are allowed to advocate for your needs without fear that doing so makes you too much, not enough, or unlovable -- including and especially your relationship with yourself.
That’s where I come in.
Hey there. I’m Mara Glatzel
[she/her]
I’m an intuitive coach, writer, and Needy podcast host.
I’m also a queer, femme wife and mother of two, recovering control freak, and a human who deeply understands the impulse to relegate her needs to the bottom of a very long to-do list in an attempt to prove her worth.
I am not even slightly interested in one size fits all “self-care” that continually misses the mark.
I am ecstatic about helping perfectionists, caregivers, and people pleasers take up space in their lives and reclaim their sovereignty through honoring and advocating for their needs.
It is time to rebuild the chasm in your relationship with yourself so that you can feel seen, heard, and adored, no matter what. This is the ultimate act of self-care.
I believe you are allowed to start again whenever you need to -- mid-morning, mid-bite, or whenever the mood strikes.
I am here for the fullest expression of everything you are.
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Who This Work Is For
Personally and politically, I believe that all of us need and deserve to get our needs met.
Here’s who I’ve worked with in the past and who I envision working with in the future: Cis and trans Women, femmes, and gender nonconforming, gender fluid, and non-binary folks assigned female at birth.
I work specifically with humans who identify with the perfectionism and people pleasing woven into the experience of growing up in a gendered society and being socialized to do emotional labor for everyone else but them.
I believe that you are the expert to your own body and experience on this planet. I am here to support you in reclaiming your sovereignty as you learn to take up space, tend to your needs, and cultivate the self-belief necessary to know that who you are right this very second is deserving of the love and support you require to thrive.
Giving back
Each and every person on this planet has needs.
However, it is difficult to meet your needs when you are struggling with immediate concerns of racism, homophobia, transphobia, hunger, fatphobia, human rights violations, ableism, and inadequate and unjust access to resources.
For this reason, 3% of the profits from my offerings are redistributed to organizations supporting humans who experience structural and systemic oppression on a daily basis, as well as scholarships for humans to take part in my work who would not otherwise be able to afford it.
Past recipients have included: Whole/Self Liberation, Brooklyn Community Bail Fund, Essie Justice Group, No Kid Hungry, Southern Poverty Law Center, Women’s Earth Alliance, The Trevor Project, and Kids in Need of Defense.
Know of a non-profit that you would like to recommend to me for future support? Please email me. I would love to hear from you.
Is this you?
You are exhausted from trying to be everything to everyone, tying yourself up in knots and over-delivering in an attempt to earn the deep acceptance you are hungry for.
You find yourself feeling pissed off (again) because your boundaries have been trampled on (again), and you are tired of waiting for the people in your life to magically know what you need.
You resist asking for help because you don’t want anyone to judge you for struggling -- and also because you don’t think anyone could do it as well as you could.
You can’t seem to stop saying yes, even when you desperately want to say no.
You criticize yourself for your lack of productivity, believing your worth is contingent upon what you DO instead of who you ARE.
You think it is your job to take responsibility for other people’s emotions, because you learned somewhere along the way that it was the only way to keep your life afloat.
You associate having needs with being “needy”, weak, burdensome, and unlovable.
You are here because on some level you know you can no longer afford to ignore yourself.
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There are a million voices in the world telling you to push harder because your worth depends squarely on what you offer instead of who you are.
I am here to remind you that it is possible to be an ambitious, loving human and create a life of meaning without abandoning yourself in the process.
I am so glad you’re here.
Take the quiz to figure out what you need right now and receive a glorious resource full of my favorite micro-practices for getting your needs met in deliciously doable ways.
Dive in and take a class with me. If you’re brand new to my work, I highly recommend starting with Daily Tending.
Tune in to the Needy podcast to listen to one of the most beloved episodes — Real Self-Care & The Bigger Picture or Consistent Self-Care Vs. Emergency Self-Care.
Hang with me on Instagram for daily reminders of your innate enoughness.
Your needs matter. YOU matter.
Your body is not an ornament. It is a vessel.
Your life is not a foregone conclusion. It lives and breathes beneath your touch.
You carry a legacy of silenced needs.
You carry the burden of feeling burdensome, unwieldy. Too much. Not enough.
You have told yourself you can take care of yourself when you find your way to the bottom of a lengthy to do list, but you never quite get there.
You wonder if the sustenance that you ache for is even possible for you.
It is.
What if bath bombs and scented candles are missing the mark because you are really aching for a seat at the table in your own life?
I know that it feels impossible to tend to take care of yourself when you already have a ton on your plate.
I also know your soul is aching — and that ache is both about physical rest AND stepping into the fullest expression of who you are underneath your many layers and daily expectations.
This work isn’t about letting yourself off the hook or sinking into stagnation masquerading as self-acceptance.
This work is about rebuilding your trust, so that you are naturally able to find the sweet spot between honoring your capacity and holding yourself lovingly accountable to your desires.
Your needs are personal to you, but that doesn’t mean they are a huge mystery you have to spend forever figuring out.
Your deep tending requires that you choose yourself, again and again, even when choosing yourself feels impossible, rebellious, and selfish.
Real self-care is the doorway. The fire. The playground for what it means to allow yourself to be human and to accept your multitudes.
I will guide you as you delve into the real life, tangible practice of showing up each day. Showing up before you are ready. Showing up even if you are afraid. Showing up even when your lived experience tell you it’s too late, too impossible, or too dangerous to belong to yourself.
Ask yourself:
What am I willing to do in order to have my needs met?
What am I willing to let go of in order to have my needs met?
I received my Masters in Clinical Social Work in 2012 with a specialization in Trauma & Interpersonal Violence.
I am certified in the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) level 1, Reiki level 1, and the Crystalline Consciousness Technique (CCT) levels 1 – 4.
I have been walking this path for as long as I can remember, and have supported thousands of humans along the way. I am not here to fix or empower you. I am here to hold space for you as you learn how to adore and empower yourself.
Inspiration
Lately, I have been learning from and inspired by Chetna Mehta's feelings wheel, My Body, My Home by Victoria Emanuela & Caitlin Metz, The Body is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor, ReBloom: Archetypal Trauma Resolution For Personal & Collective Healing by Rachael Maddox, and (always, always) Emergent Strategy by Adrienne Maree Brown.
The copy on this site was created with coaching support from Andréa Ranae and the course Write with Care with McKensie Mack.
Everything you read here was written while listening to Helen Jane Long play the piano.
I will be forever grateful to Staci Jordan Shelton for reminding me that accountability is love.
Peculiarities
No matter how many times I take a Myer’s Briggs test I wind up 50% INFJ and 50% ENFJ. I’m an extroverted in my introversion.
I have a “thing” about things being “just so.” This means I will bend over backwards to find the perfect mug, font, or planner and could wait a million and a half years for the EXACT food I am craving without wanting a lesser version. Dark chocolate & sea salt donut from Holy Donuts in Portland, ME anyone?
I am a pisces with libra moon and libra rising, which means that I’m wildly sensitive, pragmatically luxurious, and intensely imaginative.
I have an incredible knack for delivering a stellar peptalk entirely through memes. Find me on instagram to soak up some of that goodness.
What do you need right now?
Figure out what you need + how to meet that need in a way that is deliciously DOABLE, sustainable, and kind. (I pinky promise.)
