Take out a pen and a pencil, or whip up a fresh google doc.
Ask yourself these questions:
- If you could have any kind of life possible what would it look like?
- How would you dress? Who would you date?
- How would you communicate in your relationships?
- What kind of sex would you have? How often?
- How would you eat? How would you move your body?
- What kind of house would you live in?
- How would you make an income? What would that income look like?
- What would your relationship with money feel like?
- What would you do on a sunny afternoon?
- What would make you feel alive?
Be patient with yourself, it may take you a little time to formulate your ideas. There may be words crossed out or written over. You may have several drafts before you get it quite right.
Words matter, take the time to choose the right ones.
The thing is, so many of us are quickly moving about our lives, running from place to place too busy to think about what we would be doing with our lives. If we felt licensed to to ask ourselves the hard questions, quietly putting one foot in front of the other as we worked towards what we actually want, how might our lives be different?
Would we look back on the years, wishing we hadn’t wasted so much time?
You aren’t wasting time when you’re living your life instead of letting your life live you.
How might it feel to make a conscious decision to construct your life with your own two hands, reveling in the strength of the foundation or the bones of the beams and rafters? How might it feel to throw your head back and laugh when you realize that, though you had the best of intentions, you tiled the inside of the closet instead of the bathroom? To pull it up and re-do it joyfully, because you are permitting yourself the time and energy to get it done right, even if it means correcting a few errors?
I imagine that it might feel really fucking good.
After you’re done compiling your draft of a life from the questions above, think for a minute about what that person might do, today.
Would they take the time for a proper lunch break? Would they spend time with their kids cooking dinner? Would they make sure that they got enough sleep? Would they go to a hip hop yoga class in the evening? Would they shut down their computer and go out for martinis with their best friend?
Do that. Start there. Live the life of the person that you want to become.
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