Tend

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You are a brilliant, deeply capable human being.

You are a brilliant, deeply capable human being

You easily pay attention to, keep track of, and meet the needs of the humans in your life on a daily basis. You know how your boss likes their coffee + when. You know how much milk is left in the fridge. You anticipate your partner’s/siblings’/friends’ needs without them uttering a word.

Yet your needs go unacknowledged and unmet. Waiting for when you have more time. More space. More energy.

Your needs matter. You matter. It’s up to you to embrace a completely different approach to moving through the world: One that grants you freedom to exist and thrive as the majestically imperfect, sovereign human you are.

It’s time to stop pretending you can get by without taking care of yourself.

Each and every day, you have a finite amount of energy to expend. And you do that, drop by drop. Every time you make a decision. Or sign on to work. Make the kids' lunches. Go to the bank. Take your mom to the doctor. Ask Alexa to play Let It Go. Finish that project. Drop, drop, drop. 

You’re leaking energy in a way that is so subtle, you may not even notice it. At first. 

Before you know it, you’re borrowing against your reserves, and likely being socially validated for it. You’re relied upon. You’re needed. You’re thanked. (Sometimes.)

And, if you’re anything like I was before I did the work to sustainably tend to myself and my vision for my life, you’re also resentful. You’re wondering when you stopped mattering. You’re a little too quick to make yourself small, abandoning your boundaries, your needs, and yourself.

You’ve been conditioned to operate this way. In fact, it might feel like there is no other way.

But I promise you, there is. It starts with taking responsibility for your needs.  For cultivating a resilient relationship with yourself.

For giving yourself space to exist in your own life, a life where you:

  • Unlearn the conditioning that keeps you small + scared of your worthiness
  • Redefine what your worth is hinged on, what goodness is, and what it means to be lovable
  • Create more satisfying, boundaried relationships; where you ask for what you need — and get it
  • Live in partnership with yourself, trusting your own internal guidance system
  • Align your actions with your desires  — without guilt
  • Feel safe in questioning... everything. And urged to find + define your own answers
  • Proactively care for yourself, taking agency over your energy
  • Live in full expression of yourself, tending to your body, your mind, and your vision for your life

...and finally know yourself so you can care for yourself.

Radical change happens when you stop working on yourself and start working with yourself

It’s not something we’ve ever been taught. Until now. Let’s practice, together.

Tend is a 9-month group coaching circle for women, femmes, and non-binary folks ready to grow from self-abandonment to self-partnership and meet their needs with clarity and consistency.

This is a space for YOU, a natural caregiver to everyone around you, to show up for and nourish your true, essential self that’s been buried beneath layers of responsibility, commitments, and exhaustion.

Through body-based practices, tangible tools, and intimate community, Tend will guide you in crafting a plan for real self-care rooted in fierce self-respect and gentle boundaries that not only protect your physical body, but your emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies as well.  

Over the course of 9 months, you’ll learn how to tend to yourself and your vision for your life, as you unlearn the entrenched patterns and beliefs that keep you living on the margins, over-delivering, sacrificing your needs, and not holding your promises as sacred... 

...and shore up your energetic foundation so you can keep showing up for you, and all the things you care about.

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Praise for Tend

It was an awakening, an emergence, a new beginning. I honestly never thought I would ever truly feel love for myself, let alone comfortable in my skin. With Mara, the work is not an endless to-do list, or talk with no explanation. Mara warmly and kindly guides you through a process of discovery and unearthing that feels as natural as breathing.

- Sara M.

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Give me a resounding YES if this cycle is familiar:

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In case it isn’t clear: You matter. You’re just not treating yourself like you do.

We pay lip service to wanting better care for ourselves. But we’re too tired. We’re too busy. We’re too impatient. And before long, we find ourselves comfortably uncomfortable in it all.

I’m here to gently and compassionately call bullshit on that.

We’re going to rewrite our stories together. But first, know this:

Self-abandonment runs deep.

Humans that’s you, and me — grow up in a culture that prays at the altar of busyness and hyper-productivity. We learn from an early age to seek safety through tending to those around us by anticipating their needs, to the detriment of developing a trustworthy relationship with ourselves or feeling as though there is space or safety to show up at our fullest, totally human, imperfect selves.

We attempt to keep ourselves safe by constantly shifting into whatever is required for the situation. Over time, our entire sense of self erodes

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Nobody is needless.

We’ve all likely thought, at one point or another, “The good people are the people without needs.” Those are the people who are well liked. Who get promoted. Or married. But the truth is, we all have needs.

You have permission to need whatever you need. And. It’s up to you to defy the negative messages you’re wired for that keep you from getting your needs taken care of. 

You’re not an island. But tending to your needs starts with taking responsibility for them.

If you are willing to lay claim to what you have — to stand with your body, your energetic capacity, your set of ambitions, preferences, weaknesses, and struggles — if you are willing to fully occupy your life, in this body, in this time... 

What could be possible for you?

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The self-care you’ve been sold isn’t just woefully inadequate, it’s also completely irresponsible. Together, we’ll co-create a new world to live in: A hustle-less, needs-centered environment where your inherent worth is never up for questioning

Our work isn't your standard self-care. Tender stewardship is slowing down and showing up to get to know yourself. It’s feeling grounded, confident, and safe in who you are. Tending is a sea change in how you relate to yourself each day.

 It's lifetime work. And it begins inside Tend, where you’ll find:

Transformative Content

From daily coaching, questions, kinship, and accountability to weekly content that aligns with our monthly themes, you'll receive tangible tools and big concepts for life-altering work, delivered in a way you can easily dive in and integrate them into your life.

“The daily reminder questions in the FB group helped me truly practice what I was learning on a daily basis.” - Amy N.

Healing energy work

The monthly energy work allows for a depth of change that is life-altering, running beneath the work that we do to nourish and support your exploration and learning/unlearning process energetically so you’re able to create shifts you haven't been able to make before.

“...I knew Tend would be really specific and holistic for me. I really wanted the energy work and loved that it was happening each month." - Sarah F.

A sacred circle

While this work comes back to you, together we create a deep, grounded space for change, where everything is up for discussion and nothing is too much to share. Inside the Tend community, you’ll find ample space for you to bring your whole self to this work and a crew to lift you up, celebrate your growth, and ground you.

To be frank, this is the community I ached for when I was doing this work, because permission LOVES company. The messages coming from the rest of the world are loud. The new messages you’ll be working with in Tend are fortified by the strength of being surrounded by others doing the hard work of showing up for themselves.

“The group. It's so safe and a place I feel like I can go to and open up with whatever is on my heart and I know I will be seen, heard, and understood as well.” - Sara M.

Live gatherings + guest experts

We’ll come together each month with one live coaching call and two powerful Q&As where nothing is out of bounds or off the table. Bring the things you’re shouldering because it’s not “polite” to talk about or “no one wants to hear it.” We’ll navigate the month’s content, break through your barriers, and open the floor to whatever needs attention most. In addition, get access to a library of private, Tend-only conversations with guest experts, including L'Erin Alta, Morgan Wade, Marcia Baczynski, Michelle Shroer, Tami Hackbarth, Rachael Maddox, Melissa Toler, Esmé Wang, Nona Jordan, Annika Martins, Sas Petherick, Anna Guest-Jelley, Alisha Sommer, and Molly Mahar.

“The questions you asked in the group that seemed to pull me into the real work. The calls that made me feel less alone. Your coaching calls to help it all gel together.” - Tanya L.

Your Tend tuition also includes a special welcome package, surprises throughout the year, a suggested reading list that will rock your world, and the opportunity to book 1:1 sessions with me, Mara, at a Tend-only price.

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Praise for Tend

Tend was as supportive, juicy, and engaging as I had hoped.

This was an incredible experience. Tend was as supportive, juicy, and engaging as I had hoped. Mara’s teaching style is so refreshing in a world saturated with go-get-em, you-gotta-hustle messages. If you are thinking about joining Tend, DO IT! It's the best time and money you can spend. - Aly S.

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That list of things you need to fix about yourself before you’ll accept yourself for the incredible human you are? Tear. it. up

And join us inside Tend, where the real challenge we’ll face together isn’t in doing more — it’s in doing less. It’s in resting, celebrating, and nourishing yourself. It’s in letting yourself exist and receive. It’s in creating sustainable self-care that isn’t about doing more, but being more.

What do you need?

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Weekly content with prompts, practices & rituals to support you in meeting your needs

Access to our private Tend FB community

Daily prompts & coaching

Q&A office hours

Monthly energy work

Guest speaker library

Monthly virtual gatherings

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Weekly content with prompts, practices & rituals to support you in meeting your needs

Access to our private Tend FB community

Daily prompts & coaching

Q&A office hours

Monthly energy work

Guest speaker library

Monthly virtual gatherings

Plus 9 60-minute intuitive coaching sessions

5% of the tuition from this round of Tend will be donated to Whole/Self Liberation, an online school where folks can heal, grow, get free, and get resourced to be the living revolution in their work, lives, and communities.

“Tend changed my life. I now think of things as before Tend and after Tend.”

— Justine T.

Big love from just a few of the humans who’ve said yes to Tend:

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Praise for Tend

The work with you is so doable and so impactful.

I had tried sooo many things. Therapy, which was great. But also a zillion self-help books, TED talks, other online courses in happiness and well-being, but nothing quite hit the spot the way Tend did. I so appreciate you, Mara, as a coach and guide because you don't give any answers. This is invaluable. You ask questions and help people find their own answers inside of themselves. I also just get such a cozy, fall feeling when I think of Tend. The work with you is so doable and so impactful. It's been a really life-enriching experience. - Giovanna D.

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...it becomes part of how you do things.

You have a unique gift for expressing compassion for the self and responsibility to the self in the same breath, in a way that makes both feel achievable and sustainable. The life you want for us is not one where we have to jump off the treadmill and chug a bottle of wine in the closet and then jump back on again. It's a life that is more like a comfortable stroll through town or out in nature, not rushing but always being open to the moment. Tend is so very doable. I often think of courses as another thing to do. But if you think about it instead as a chance to practice regularly over a period of time, certain techniques, certain practices, that's really what it is and that's hugely helpful because it becomes part of how you do things. Mara, you are teaching life as a meditation and I am so grateful that you have chosen to share your gifts with us. - Laura H.

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Praise for Tend

It taught me new tools and provided a safe, supportive container to practice using these tools.

Tend is a gentle but effective training ground for self-care, hosted by the most delicious woman. It taught me new tools and provided a safe, supportive container to practice using these tools. At the end of Tend, I am feeling hopeful. I am now able to say no to social events that I "should" go to when I don't want to or when they don't serve my self-care, get to bed earlier, and find time for pockets of silence in my day. - Amy N.

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You want to be witnessed and tended to. I can help.

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Hey there — I’m Mara.

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I'm an intuitive coach, writer, and Needy podcast host who helps perfectionists and people pleasers reclaim their sovereignty.

I'm also a queer, femme wife and mother of two, recovering control freak, and a human who deeply understands the impulse to relegate my needs to the bottom of a very long to-do list in an attempt to prove my worth.

These days, I take really good care of myself as often as I am able.

I believe that the ultimate act of self-care is rebuilding the chasm in your relationship with yourself so that you can feel seen, heard, and adored, no matter what. I want you to know that you don’t have to over-deliver, minimize your needs, or suffer to earn your space in the world. You can create a relationship with yourself filled with radiant trust and gentle discipline by taking your daily choices off of autopilot.

My intuitive coaching style is supported by skills gleaned from a Masters in Clinical Social Work with trauma specialization, energy healing tools acquired through working with the Crystalline Consciousness Technique (CCT), and Reiki. 

Deeper than that, I have a knack for paying particular attention to where people around me are struggling and delivering information in a way that they are most easily able to receive it. I've run sold out programs and live retreats around the country for years, having supported thousands of people in taking up space and getting their needs met.

I’m pro-human and anti-hustle. When I’m not coaching, writing, or recording, you can find me outside in my garden, watching Frozen for the millionth time (because, 4 year old), drinking the most perfect and delicious cup of coffee while pretending the characters on my favorite TV shows are my real life friends, or taking part in my own favorite form of self-care: detailing my car. 

I created Tend as a place for you to practice caring for your needs and claiming your rightful place in the center of your life.

I am on this journey with you. I haven’t arrived. No one does. 

I hope you’ll join me.

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I will not let you abandon yourself — all you have to do is show up.

(It's that easy. And that hard.) 

My superpower is saying what you need to hear when you need to hear it and I am here to help you believe in yourself as much as I believe in you. 

When you join Tend, you’ll start believing in yourself more and more as we dance through nine themes related to the ultimate triad of claiming your sovereignty...self-responsibility, self-trust, and self-love:

Radical Self-Responsibility

October: Grounding
  • What do I need?
  • Trusting that what you need is okay
  • Valuing yourself & believing that your needs matter
November: Rest
  • Boundaries & saying no
  • Acknowledging your needs before you’re burnt out
  • How to stop feeling guilty for what you need
December: Nourishment
  • Tools & skills for ensuring that your needs are met
  • Tapping into your own personal energy cycle
  • Meeting your needs without justifying or apologizing

Radiant Self-Trust

January: Trust
  • Your feelings as your greatest teachers
  • Balancing your needs with other people's expectations
  • Rebuilding your trust by following through
February: Integrity
  • Unearthing & prioritizing your values
  • Creating a flexible structure for getting things done
  • What to do with conflicting needs
March: Sovereignty
  • Connecting with your inner permission granter
  • Overcoming the barriers that keep you stuck
  • Rewriting your stories about what it means to need

Self-Love

April: Love
  • How to navigate & maintain healthy boundaries
  • Meeting your needs no matter where you are
  • Confidence in asking for what you need
May: Belonging
  • Belonging to yourself first
  • Honoring your commitments to yourself
  • Tolerating other people’s reactions to you
June: Celebration
  • Feeling comfortable taking up space
  • Advocating for yourself joyfully & powerfully
  • Acknowledging your growth

with each monthly module broken down into…

Week 1: Learn
  • Sunday Blessing
  • Video lesson to introduce the month's theme & guide you in tending to your needs
Week 2: Inner Work
  • Sunday Blessing
  • A practice to help you unlearn the stories and beliefs that keep you striving to prove your worth
Week 3: Outer Work
  • Sunday Blessing
  • A practice to help you take tangible, inspired action towards getting your needs met
  • Monthly group call
Week 4: Integrate
  • Sunday Blessing
  • Energy work & intuitive guidance to support your emotional body as you integrate the course material

Sunday blessings are a mix of inspiration, prayer, and channeled writing to energetically support you in integrating the course material and rewriting your internal stories about what you need. 

One of the best things about me as a coach and teacher is that I am able to be energetically responsive to the needs of the group. There’s a framework, but I am also pivoting to respond to what comes up along the journey for you. It’s part of the flow that makes Tend so unequivocally magical.

Tend begins Sunday, September 27th. Friday, September 25th is the final day to register.

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I have a secret for you: You will fall off track. (We all do.)

Within the Tend container, you will lose yourself...repeatedly. And. You will learn how to find yourself and bring yourself home. You will rebuild your relationship with yourself the same way you would rebuild a relationship with someone else — by showing up, following through, being kind, and not giving up when you get it wrong.

Tend is for those who are ready to engage in that process over and over again as you build sacred self-trust that proves you’ll never abandon yourself again. 

In case that still leaves you straddling the fence...

Tend is perfect for you if…

✔ You’re ready, able, and willing to show up and remain in this conversation with yourself, no matter what, embracing presence over perfection.

✔ You’re ready to be supported in the journey of moving past just wanting to be well cared for and actually getting uncomfortable in getting your needs met.

✔ You’re craving the type of self-trust that tells you no matter what happens, you can rebuild it -- and you’re ready to work for it.

Tend isn’t for you if…

✖ You don't have a strong desire to live differently, more fully than you have been. 

✖ You’re happier paying lip service to your vision and aren’t willing to get uncomfortable in service to it.

✖ You won’t take responsibility for your actions. You cannot tend to yourself around the perimeter of your life as it is, even if that’s what you might have available to start. This work takes tenacity and a willingness to try something different in order to create different results.

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“Tend was an amazing experience. I am so thankful! Mara’s constant presence and availability helped me to grow in self-trust and to be present to myself as she was present to us. I just feel an innate sense of comfort and goodness with Mara. There is peace and truth in your presence. You are generous with your very whole self. I have learned from you how to stay on my own side and to tell myself the truth. This is everything. You are wise and you are free and you are real. And 100% permission giving. You help me make room for faith and to believe that change is possible. And that I am okay and good as I am.”

- Sarah F.

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“If you are thinking that Tend might be a good “fit” for you, don’t hesitate, because you already belong in Tend just by being a messy, glorious human with needs. I’ve been working with Mara for a few years now and she is truly a gift to the world — I can’t recommend her podcast, workshops, courses, and website enough. But Tend? Tend is something entirely different and incredible because she creates this space for this circle of like-minded women to gather in and support each other for an entire nine months, and it is MAGIC.”

- Carrie

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“You inspire us to nurture ourselves and be true to ourselves. You remind me that I have needs and wants and both are SO important, valid, and wonderful. You are very self-affirming. Also very practical: this practicality helps by giving us actual practices and steps (simple, not overwhelming) that we can implement for the better. I love your work because it supports everything else I do in my life; the benefits I receive from you and what you offer literally help me in every other way because you are speaking to my heart and core and what I need in order to be a cared-for human (which then allows me to thrive).”

- Bri B.

What are you waiting for?

No, really — answer that. What are you waiting for?

You know better than anyone else on the planet what you need, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. 

Too many of us are waiting to love ourselves or for it to feel right or easy to get started. I know you are a spectacular human being who’s deserving of compassion, kindness, care, and space in your own life. 

Consider this your letter-pressed, embossed invitation to start believing that yourself, before you’re ready.

I’m ready for you. All of you. In all of your humanity.

What do you need?

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Weekly content with prompts, practices & rituals to support you in meeting your needs

Access to our private Tend FB community

Daily prompts & coaching

Q&A office hours

Monthly energy work

Guest speaker library

Monthly virtual gatherings

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tend + 1:1 support

Weekly content with prompts, practices & rituals to support you in meeting your needs

Access to our private Tend FB community

Daily prompts & coaching

Q&A office hours

Monthly energy work

Guest speaker library

Monthly virtual gatherings

Plus 9 60-minute intuitive coaching sessions

5% of the tuition from this round of Tend will be donated to Whole/Self Liberation, an online school where folks can heal, grow, get free, and get resourced to be the living revolution in their work, lives, and communities.

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You know how to do more. But do you know how to do less?

We aren’t focusing on your self-care so you can do more. Contrary to what other self-help solutions will sell you, you do not need to work harder to earn your needs getting met.

Tend answers the question: What else is available to me? That starts with reclaiming your thoughts, your beliefs, your stories, and determining what is true for you now.

While we’re here, let’s banish a few other beliefs you might have:

  • You’re not allowed to meet your own needs.
  • You’re too much and not enough, simultaneously.
  • This is just your lot in life.
  • You should be grateful for what you have, not want more.

Inside Tend, you’ll learn the truth: Your life isn’t one to be mined and extracted exclusively for other people’s purposes, but for you to learn to know, like, and trust yourself, as you take up space in the world and expend your energy on the things that fill you up.

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Tend is not another thing to do.

The world gives you deadlines. Alarms. Screaming kiddos. Nagging bosses. Quite the opposite of the slow mornings, joy-filled walks, and quality family time you desire. 

My promise to you: Tend will lovingly provide the space for you to better understand your needs, experiment with new habits that help you meet those needs each day, and build a resilient connection with yourself you can rely upon for good. But don’t just take it from me:

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Praise for Tend

...it is a million reminders that you are the sovereign leader of your life and you matter.

Tend has truly been one of the most supportive things I have ever done. This course is absolutely not another to do (at all), it is a million reminders that you are the sovereign leader of your life and that you matter. The course, Mara, and community hold you as you shift your beliefs and actions. It is gentle, comforting, soft and so powerful. I didn't conceptualize the course so much as "self-care" but as a guide to truly developing a trusting and loving relationship with myself. A relationship in which I pay attention to how I feel, what I need, and what I want. I also made great steps in learning how to hold myself accountable with love, which feels way better. I cannot say enough fabulous things about Mara or Tend. I truly loved it and I can feel the impact it has made in my life. I highly recommend this experience to anyone who wants help developing a loving + consistent relationship with themselves, and really anyone who just generally wants to feel better in life. - Sara

Praise for Tend

I am more forgiving of myself.

Tend was a reset for me. You create a really special space for your clients, providing lovingly crafted materials that strike to the heart of the matter. I am able to listen for my own needs better. I am able to stand up for myself when other people in my life resist me meeting my needs. And I am more forgiving of myself when I don't listen to my needs. - Leah N.

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Praise for Tend

I came to respect my needs -- and how I could meet them.

Through Tend, I developed a clear understanding of what my needs actually are, rather than what I think they “should” be or what makes a pretty picture for social media. I came to respect my needs—even the ones that are mundane or less than glamorous—and how I could meet them. Because of the depth of the material in Tend and the length of the program, I developed sustainable self-care. There was time and space to practice, to return back when I found myself burning out by spending energy on caring for myself in ways that sounded good on paper but didn’t really nourish me. Most of all, there was Mara, with her vast knowledge, wisdom, and encouragement, which she shared through emails (one of which was so spot-on and awesome that it—on its own—was worth the price of the entire course). Plus, the videos, interviews, and group calls that continually opened the invitation to believe that my needs matter, offered practical tools, and provided open-hearted support. - Kathryn S.

Feeling nerv-cited?

It’s the flutter that’s alighting in your belly: The one that has you called forward, but also consciously aware that things are about to get uncomfortable. 

And it’s how I know you’re ready to step into this life-altering journey.

Still have questions? I’m here to help:

Stop living in the margins of your life.

Sacrificing your needs isn't the only way to get things done. Over-delivering isn't the only way for you to feel worthy.

Your needs matter and it is your job to meet them.

Tending to yourself often and imperfectly gives you the energy and strength to do everything you want to do with your life. Period.

Don’t waste another minute getting started.

What do you need?

tend

Weekly content with prompts, practices & rituals to support you in meeting your needs

Access to our private Tend FB community

Daily prompts & coaching

Q&A office hours

Monthly energy work

Guest speaker library

Monthly virtual gatherings

stacked-triangles

tend + 1:1 support

Weekly content with prompts, practices & rituals to support you in meeting your needs

Access to our private Tend FB community

Daily prompts & coaching

Q&A office hours

Monthly energy work

Guest speaker library

Monthly virtual gatherings

Plus 9 60-minute intuitive coaching sessions

5% of the tuition from this round of Tend will be donated to Whole/Self Liberation, an online school where folks can heal, grow, get free, and get resourced to be the living revolution in their work, lives, and communities.

AllisonW

Praise for Tend

You're the real deal in self-help and self-improvement. In a sea of people giving ‘professional’ advice that amounts to platitudes, you provide concrete strategies for making people's lives better, wherever they find themselves.
- Allison W.

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