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1:1 COACHING + ENERGY WORK
YOU GOT GOOD AT A LIFE THAT YOU NEVER ACTUALLY CHOSE.
Not because you were wrong. Because the path was already laid when you arrived. Excel. Handle it. Be the one who knows what everyone needs.
You learned the rules before anyone told you they were rules, and you were good at it, genuinely good, which made it very easy to keep going and very hard to stop and ask: Wait, is this what I actually want?
Nobody handed you that question. So you didn't ask it.
And now you're living a life that looks, by every measurable standard, like it's going well. You might even take good care of yourself.
And you're bone tired in a way the self-care doesn't quite touch.
That's because the tired isn't coming from what you're doing. It's coming from the constant, invisible, background hum of translating who you actually are into something more palatable, more expected, more legible to whatever room you're in. Scanning for the right thing to say. Editing before you speak. Making yourself just a little smaller, a little less strange, a little more like what seems to be required.
That scanning costs something every single day. No amount of baths or journaling fully replenishes it, because the leak is still there.
The rest of you, the vast, weird, overflowing, living-to-the-edges rest of you, has been waiting a long time to stop being impressive and just BE.
The fear of being seen isn't about what you make or do or put out into the world. It's older than that. More cellular. It's the part of you that learned to edit herself before she even existed in the room. Before she spoke. Before she took up space. Before she let herself want something visibly enough that someone might notice and have a feeling about it.
COACHING + ENERGY WORK
That's not a creative problem. That's a belonging wound. And it lives in the body, not the mind.
The part of you that learned, early and well, that belonging required performance. That the weird, whimsical, romance-reading, altar-building, living-to-the-edges version of you was maybe a little too much, a little too strange, a little too wanting to be fully safe to bring into the room.
So you became remarkably impressive instead. You got competent. You got very, very good at being legible to everyone around you. And the unbaked, free, feral inner kid, the one who knew exactly what she loved before anyone told her she was doing it wrong, went quiet. Not gone. Just waiting.
You can't think your way out of this. You know this, because you've tried. You might understand your patterns beautifully. And still, in the moment that counts, the old wiring runs the show.
This is why our work together happens in two places at once.
Our coaching calls are for organic support. Not the fix-you kind, because you aren't broken and you've had plenty of plans. This is a thought partnership, two people following the real thread of your life wherever it actually leads. You bring your one wild life. I bring everything I know about what it takes to stop performing and start inhabiting. The territory is always yours. The direction is always toward you.
The energy work tends to the emotional underpinning of what you carry in your body.
Every month, we set an intention together. Not a goal in the striving sense. More like pointing an arrow toward the future you want to claim for yourself, naming it out loud, on purpose, as an act of devotion to the version of you that's been waiting.
Then I do the rest.
Using Crystalline Consciousness technique, I complete a bespoke energy healing chart for you remotely. I'm looking for the wrinkles, the snarls, the old experiences and inherited patterns wound tight around your intention, keeping you from fully embodying it. The places where the belonging wound lives in the body. The clench before you say yes when you mean no. The exhaustion below the exhaustion. The parts of you that dimmed so long ago, but ache to re-ignite.
I send you a video with what I found. The energy work itself arrives for you to receive in your own time, in your own body, without having to do anything except receive it.
You don't need more insight. You don't need another framework. You needs to feel, in your body, at the cellular level, that it is finally, actually safe to come out.
That's what the energy work does. It goes where the talking can't.
- Over time I have grown into such appreciation for Mara's energy work. I now experience a sense of where/who I am or have been in the recent past. Next I “listen” for what is inviting me now, what invitation is calling me (either externally or internally). Then I “listen” for my own sense of what feels like the next right step. So all of these roughly connect to and are inspired by the tree (roots, trunk, branches). I also consistently experience a feeling of peace and hope and trust.
- Sarah Flick
WHAT'S INCLUDED
Six 60-minute sessions over three months. Spacious, unhurried, organic, and entirely about you.
Monthly bespoke energy work using Crystalline Consciousness technique, tuned to your intention and to wherever you are that month. You receive a video with the findings and the energy work itself to receive in your own time.
Voice memo and/or email support Monday - Friday between sessions, so you have me in your back pocket when the hard moment actually happens.
A clear intention, set together in our first session. You don't need to arrive with anything sorted. Figuring out what you're here for is part of the work.
Your investment: $700/month for three months or $2,100 paid in full
WHO YOU'LL BE AT THE END OF OUR THREE MONTHS TOGETHER
You'll know what you want. Not because you figured it out perfectly, not because you worked hard enough at the question, but because you stopped tuning it out or muscling past it.
You'll notice the moment you start to shrink yourself. And more and more, you won't.
You'll say and do things you used to edit. You'll make decisions without polling the group chat, without running it through the what-will-they-think filter first, without waiting for permission that was never coming anyway.
Your needs will stop feeling like a case you have to argue. You'll simply know them, the way you know you're thirsty, and you'll let yourself have them without the whole internal tribunal first.
You'll rest without earning it. You'll take up space without apologizing for the square footage. You'll do things just because you want to, because you like them, because they're delicious and strange and entirely yours, and that will feel like enough. More than enough. Like finally.
The people you love will get a version of you who is present instead of performing. Some of them will love it immediately. Some of them will need a minute. That's okay. You'll let them have their minute without abandoning yourself to manage it.
And that unbaked, free, deeply weird inner kid, the one who knew exactly what she loved before she learned to be impressive instead, she'll start coming out. Slowly at first. Then all at once. She'll have opinions. She'll want things. She'll be a little feral and a little tender and absolutely, entirely herself.
She's been waiting such a long time for you to come back for her.
Belonging to yourself is lifetime work. But three months is long enough to feel the ground change under your feet. Long enough to stop being an afterthought in your own life.
"I felt led towards conclusions that were just waiting for me to discover them." "
A big part of what worked for me was that I felt led towards conclusions that were just waiting for me to discover them, instead of being told 'this is what you should do now.' I never felt like I was being told off if something didn't work out, because Mara knew the value of doing what clicks for you, not for other people. - Alice O.
"She always seems to know the exact right question to ask."
In our sessions together, Mara listened, validated, and then always seemed to know the exact right question to ask me that unlocked another level of compassionate self-knowledge I hadn't even known I had." - Carrie C.
"I felt lighthearted in a way that I haven't in a long time."
Talking to Mara was like talking to my best friend. The topics just sort of developed on their own, and I felt free to say whatever I needed to. I felt understood. I felt heard. I felt lighthearted in a way that I haven't in a long time. She gave me the opportunity, the permission to just be myself, to feel and think the things that I do without judgement. - Heather H.
"I'm starting to give myself permission to be and love the woman I am right now."
I had to examine what routines, patterns, and habits were working, and which weren't, and we got to the root of why those habits existed in the first place. I feel like our sessions are more like secret-swapping, where I am discovering that I wasn't the alien weirdo I always thought I was. I am starting to give myself permission to be and love the woman I am right now. - Stephanie
THIS 1:1 WORK IS FOR YOU IF...
You are vast and you know it, even on the days it doesn't feel that way.
You've done the work. The therapy, the books, the journaling, the programs. You understand yourself beautifully. And you're ready for the kind of work that goes below understanding, into the body, into the places that haven't gotten the memo yet.
You're done making yourself smaller to fit rooms that were never built for you.
You want a partner, not a curriculum. Someone who will follow the real thread with you, wherever it actually leads, without flinching at what's down there.
You're ready to stop trying to be impressive by other people's standards and start being yourself, and you're beginning to suspect those two things have been in direct competition for a very long time.
You have an inner kid who has been waiting patiently for someone to come back for her. You're ready to wrap her up in a big hug and claim her, even when her feelings are inconvenient or overwhelming.
You're open to working with your body and your energy field, not just your thoughts. You believe, or you're willing to find out, that the shift lives below the neck. You want to embody the full breadth of who you actually are and what you actually want and need.
Some part of you suspects this could actually be fun.
THIS 1:1 WORK IS PROBABLY NOT FOR YOU IF...
You want someone to hand you a plan and homework, and grade you on it.
You're hoping to understand your way out of this without feeling anything.
You're not quite ready to stop doing All Of The Things. That's okay. Come back when you are.
Exploring your own unchartered territory sounds more threatening than exciting right now.
HEY THERE, I'M MARA. MY PRONOUNS ARE SHE/HER.
I'm a coach, an energy worker, the author of Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs and Reclaim Your Sovereignty, and the host of Even Here, Even Now. I'm also a recovering control freak and a lifelong over-giver who spent years relegating my needs to the bottom of a very long to-do list.
I'm a queer, femme, neurodivergent single mother of two raucous, amazing girls. I live for maximalist, colorful vibes and drinking an extra cup of coffee too late in the day. In addition to my professional work and parenting, I am also the president of the PTA and a select board member in my town. (Think Taylor Doose.) I'm an ambitious human who loves to be of service to my community, who is, also, relentlessly devoted to taking really good care of myself every single day.
I believe deeply in the power of radical self-partnership and know, in my bones, that it requires our presence, not our perfection.
My 1:1 coaching is the most intimate work I do. Just the two of us, no curriculum, no cohort, nowhere else to be. When you bring the parts of yourself you are least sure about, the most tender, the most unfinished, the ones you've been quietly carrying for years wondering if anyone would ever find them worthy, I will be leaning all the way in. I will want more. Every single time.
You've been waiting a long time for someone to find you thrilling. I do. I will. That's not a technique. It's just who I am.
STILL HAVE QUESTIONS?
Is now really the right time?
If you're waiting for life to calm down first, I regret to inform you that a more chill, spacious season will not magically appear on your calendar because you've worked hard enough to earn it.
This work is for the full, complicated seasons. That's exactly when staying with yourself matters most, and exactly when having someone in your corner changes everything.
I'm so burnt out. How am I supposed to take on one more thing?
This isn't one more thing to be good at. There's no homework to fall behind on and no version of this you can fail. We work with the capacity you actually have, and a lot of our time together is about giving energy back to you, not asking more of you.
How is this different from Tend?
Tend is my group program: A beautiful, structured container where you learn responsive self-care alongside other people doing the same work. This is private, unstructured in the best way, and built entirely around you. Tend is a path. This is a partnership. Many of my 1:1 clients are Tend grads who wanted to go further.
What does the energy work actually involve?
You and I will work together to craft an intention that is supportive and nourishing for you in this season of your life. Then, I will remotely tend to your energetic field by completing a healing session for you. When this is finished, I will record a video for you explaining what showed up during the healing and sent it to your inbox.
Your only job is to receive. There is nothing to DO here. You don't have to perfectly execute anything. This work is a gift for you, your energetic body, and your nervous system as you move through your daily life.
What if I'm scared?
You can be afraid and ready at the same time. Most of my clients are both. Bring the fear to your first session. We'll be nice to her.
Am I worth spending this money on?
The honest answer is that you've probably been asking this question your whole life, and you keep coming up with the same answer. Everyone else first. Their needs, their comfort, their requests. And you'll be okay.
The better question is: What is it actually costing you to keep saying that? Not in theory. In your daily life, in your body, in the gap between who you are and who you're performing. That cost is real, even if no one is invoicing you for it.
Saying yes to this work is you deciding, maybe for the first time, to put yourself on your own list. Not at the bottom. At the top.
How do payments work?
You can pay for our work together through three monthly payments of $700 or one payment of $2,100.
If you choose the payment plan, future payments will be debited from your account automatically on the day of the month you made your initial payment. (ie. If you paid on the 4th, each subsequent month's payment will be processed on the 4th.)
"To feel so safe when talking about such deeply personal issues..."
To feel so safe when talking about such deeply personal issues and to be met with such genuine care, kindness and warmth has been an incredible experience. Mara creates a safe and encouraging space to explore these answers and truly believes in her client's strength to create any life that they imagine. - Tamar
"Now it feels like everything is ticking along."
I approached her about a couple of issues where I felt very stuck in my life... and now it feels like everything is ticking along. The exercises gave me somewhere to focus and Mara's feedback was always thought provoking in the best way. Mara has been both a sounding board and an enthusiastic cheerleader. I couldn't recommend her more. - Kristin
YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT MORE IS POSSIBLE
The version of your life that actually feels like yours is just there, slightly out of reach. The one where you take up space in your life. Where you stop shrinking to fit. Where the person who shows up in the room is actually, finally, you.
And you like her.
You might be stuck wondering if you stop being so impressive, so capable, so perfectly legible, will they still want you? Will you still be loved? Will you still belong?
That's the real question underneath all of it. And it's the one we're going to answer together. Not by blowing up your life. Not by becoming someone wholly unrecognizable. But by going slowly and deliberately back to the self who was always there, the one who knew what she wanted before she learned it wasn't safe to want it out loud, and finding out, actually finding out in your body, that she is someone worth belonging to.
Our sessions together is where you bring all of it. The vastness. The wanting. The strange specific deeply you things you've been quietly carrying. The gap between who you perform and who you actually are. All of you is welcome here. None of it needs to be edited before you arrive.
Three months of 1:1 coaching + energy work $700/month or $2,100 paid in full